Why? Just Ask.

I guess the "story begins" with you... but, it continues on for me/us.

My main push for this blog was simply to educate the people who are on the "outside of the box" -- who tend to judge the people on the "inside of the box." I have had plenty of people over the past almost 6 years judge, including family who didn't and don't ever give the time of day to ask where we are coming from on matters regarding why we do what we do in order to keep the peace (if you even want to call it that) between households. Normal every day occurrences that happen in normal family settings, have to be thoroughly thought out before acting upon because the "other" party - your SC and/or BM create conflict within your home. There are so many instances or examples that I could share - but with time, you'll soon see exactly what I am talking about, what everyone here is talking about. All I ask, is that the people who do read, who are on the "outside of the box" looking in, before you leap to judgment -- learn more, educate yourself, ask - make a comment - we'll respond, *try* to put yourself in our shoes - and not the happy beautiful smelling rose bush, but the ones that have a lot of thorns... The one thing that has irked me the most has been people who do not ask and outrightly judge w/out knowing the circumstances behind why.